cutting cords to colonization: on energetic responsibility

There’s something about doing a general freezer spell that makes people you love stop talking to you immediately…and that something is God’s hand in my life.

I was trained to be the fat friend, the funny friend, the fucked up friend, the emotional support friend. But people never overtly say that those labels are synonyms for the person whose energy gets harvested. The bag of juice with multiple straws, only given enough time to refill to not look suspicious between sips. We rarely acknowledge how siphoning is colonization on a social level, and why we need to become energetically responsible if we gonna get anywhere.

When I stopped playing the role of the supporting character, people started getting angry. Because how dare I be mammy shaped and colored, but not give a teat? How dare I be powerful, beautiful, and so many other things as a Black woman in a way that didn’t directly benefit them?

Cord configuring is liberation work.

Cord configuring is becoming so acutely aware of where your energy is going that the moment someone tries to play you, you have multiple alert systems in place. It is not just cutting—it is a portal to understanding how energy works. It opens realms to tools for protection, reflection, transmutation, and reclamation. These boons help you acknowledge when the ball is in your court, and you can use that ball to knock over systems that keep us in monotony.

(shameless plug: I will be teaching folks tools for doing this…on 8/31, virtually…so like, pull up. details at the end. ok. continue.)

Let me give you an example.

I used to hang out with a group of girls in my early 20s who were the kind of friends I thought I always wanted: creative, spiritual, fun, sensual. These relationships taught me a lot about navigating being a medium and a creative, and for a while it felt very sweet. But I had a strange dream where I could feel them putting a spell on a group of people—an enchantment to receive what they wanted from others—and I was the only one who saw it. But in waking life I loved them, so I pretended to be enchanted still. I faked enchantment when being around some of them gave me a stomach ache. I’d notice their silent interactions when I’d bring happy news around, but brush it off. I had to be wrong, because they called me sister and treated me like one…right?

This was around the time I was making protective jewelry, and my brand was strong bitch. I had people wearing my earrings and waistbeads and telling me the sets got them out of sticky situations with cops, opps, and all types of shit. So when my evil eye jewelry started popping around them, I had to finally acknowledge shit was off. But I didn’t want to accept it. Why would they treat me that way when all I did was love them?

You know how that go.

My muertos got louder, and undeniably shady situations transpired. It made me enjoy my solitude, and made me acutely aware of how strong my intuition actually is. So I separated myself.

But the wound was still there. It didn’t start with them, but it deepened there: the yearning to have people in my life that could go as deep as I did, feeling like I wasn’t valued beyond emotional and spiritual support, and shame for the ways I sacrificed good sense to feel that depth.

That wound repeated itself in various relationships over years. After a while I was like, “what the fuck mane?! I do my shadow work, I take my baths…what is allowing this to continue?”

So, I did a multi-layer cleansing that later became my cord configuring process…and found energetic hooks from these women, connected to me. Instead of crashing out, I listened. Imagine my surprise in hearing them clearly state their jealousy, frustration with my gifts, and getting HELLA worked up in the astral realm because they were about to lose their energy source. I’m talkin’ bout shorties creating energetic diversions to distract me from reclaiming my energy. And it showed me that they were skilled at siphoning. Most cords that show up in cleanses aren’t intentional, and if they are, people accept they got caught and get it together. This was some other shit entirely. They were latching onto wounds and insecurities, and feeding it in the outer world through gossip. It created a loop. Spirit showed me they were using said energy to build a project together.

And after I handled the situation…they suddenly started fundraising.

I tell you: when you know what you know, you know.

These moments sound intense because they are. But they make me responsible for my energy. Whether or not I handle the situation, people mismanage their energy anyway. Handling it prevents it from becoming illness, blockages, or distractions from my path. Imagine letting a hating ass bitch make me believe I’m powerless, and then I gotta do an extra incarnation to fix it? NO SIRREE!

Beyond that, these situations show me how colonization and capitalism make people feel incapable of using their own medicine: people become parasites for the same reasons they engage in capitalism and colonization: doing it alone was too much work; they don’t feel powerful enough; they’re tired; they’re unaware; they’re taught other people are commodities; their shame is louder than their connection to God; they want more, and to receive it, other bodies must grow weak to feed their desire. These systems place people in feedback loops. When we disrupt it materially and spiritually, we can take a good look at the world we create.

When people see you and refuse to give you credit, it is the desire for your essence without your presence: they want your vibration on them, but not around to outshine them. It is parasitism at its clearest. It is in the mean girl cliques and TikTok creators struggling while their plagiarists make bank and entire ethnicities being rebranded at gunpoint. We need to question what we’re seeing when we look at people because glamours do not just come from roses and rainwater.

When we navigate the world with this awareness, we become able to see our collective hypocrisy.

If you want social justice you should look at the spiritual aspects of social interactions. If you want sovereignty, you should take responsibility for how your beliefs shape your relationships. If we want a new world we should take responsibility for the ways our thoughts, energy, and actions debilitate one another and delay the world we claim to crave. It is of the most powerful things we can do, because it requires vigilance.

We can use this work to unhook from systems, cycles, and situations. When you become acutely aware of where your energy goes, it ripples through every part of you: your speech, your sensory abilities, and what you deem worthy of your time. You develop tools for redirection, and are able to snap others out of the delusion, too. You’re more keen to the insidious nature of capitalism and how it latches onto poverty wounds it created. It makes life delicious again. And what’s better than using energy from your haters to build a better world?

I want a world where we ask our guides and comrades questions before fixing our mouths to say “we’re cooked.”

I’d rather we teach young folks how to manage their energy bodies…so they’re less keen on devices that fry their brains, and more aware of how their bodies feel around unsafe people. I want them to be able to energetically disengage from interpersonal and global loops that don’t benefit the collective.

These are technologies for the future.

So when I do a general freezer spell and friendships wither, I don’t get angry anymore. I let them cool down and handle their own energy because I gotta handle mine, and entire communities rely on me staying sharp. When I cut cords, it’s because I am tethered to a future where multiple species live in harmony; where the things I teach, learn, and write are common fact; where the ancient is current and currents of care flow with clarity and curiosity. And if I’m cutting, repairing, or reworking a cord, it’s because I won’t be manipulated out of my destiny or energy. I move in compassion, and don’t deem people evil for having human emotions. But I’m also not about to let bitches play with fire when me and mine eat flames.

I don’t assume malicious intent where it isn’t. But I also saw what I saw and you can’t make me unsee it.

The same way I will not unsee atrocities or act powerless when it comes to doing what I can do.

If you’d like to learn more about energetic responsibility, learn tools to do this work on your own, work fuck energy in your favor and receive a multi-layer cord configuration, join me on august 31st.

( the link is my linktree, which is https://linktr.ee/flo.glo )

And as always,

use your energy wisely.

xo flo